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About Me — Life on the Mat
I lived an ordinary life crawling my way to the top of the corporate ladder specializing in retail marketing, until I realized that life is not all about the glitz and glamour that the moneyed life brings.  In a snap, I found myself sharing stories and knowledge in front of wide-eyed college students, enjoying every bit of time I spend with them.  So much so, that I never felt the passing of time as an educator for more than two years.

My life got spiced up the moment I discovered Brazilian Jiu-jitsu in 2006.  I was awarded my blue belt (second female homegrown blue belt in the Philippines) by Master Fabricio Martins of Equipe Fabricio Brazil in April 2008.  I train with my Kiwi coach, Stephen Kamphuis, a 1st degree black belt in BJJ and a 2nd dan black belt in Judo who decided to move to the Philippines with his Filipina wife.  He now owns two dojos in Manila.

Doing BJJ is more than a sport; it’s a way of life.  I have learned to embrace it and let my life revolve around it, which made me drop my unhealthy habits to get fitter and stronger.  Among the oh-so-many BJJ moves and positions, I find myself enthralled by armbars and playing in the guard.  I strive to train 3-5 times a week.

Academe and BJJ aside, I also write and pick up my Nikon once in a while to enhance my creative persona.  I am a slave to QISH, my 2-year-old Siamese cat who thinks that he is human — that, or he sees me as one big cat slave.

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Comment by bibomedia

Hello, just came across your website when I was searching for more info on women who do BJJ.

I’ve always been interested in taking BJJ classes and now have the opportunity to do so.. a bit worried as I’m below 50 kg but we’ll see how I go.

Would love to keep in touch with you via email!


Comment by Neko

Please do try! It’s a wonderful sport. Just make sure that you train with good people, and you won’t have to worry about your weight. My competing weight is at 50kg (although I gained a lot since I stopped my activities altogether). Avoid the guys who use too much strength (usually the newbies) and train with the more advanced guys who have beautiful techniques that they can share with you. I used to have one purple belt guy who teaches me like I was his protegé, and eventually his techniques rubbed off on me. But the important thing is, have fun and you’ll surely love it! 🙂

Comment by jonna

Your blog is amazing! I currently hold 2 stripes at a *drum roll* white belt 😀 I’ve been addicted to it for a year now and I love growing in it and learning it. I’ve done 2 white belt exhibitions too. I started in it to stay in shape, and now I want to do it for life. You’re an inspiration for us (girls) everywhere.

I too would love to keep in touch! Good luck with your goals on and off the mat!

Comment by Arelis

Thanks a lot for your comment! It’s nice to find women who practice BJJ all over the world, because there are so few of us! Keep on training 🙂

Comment by jonna

I’ve only been doung bjj for 6 months and have only 1 stripe :), and the only regular girl in the club (if they didn’t close the gym I’d probably never go home!). I really don’t get to hear about (or see) other girls in this boys world. Its good to know there are more of us out there!

It can be so frustrating being smaller and weaker then everyone else, but I am learning there is so many other things to it besides physical strength!

Cant wait for the Australasian nationals, to be able to meet other girls just as passionate and maybe get some learning tips!

Keep up the good work! 😀

Comment by Hayley

Tell me about it! I am that addicted to BJJ, too (at least it’s a healthy addiction).

Competitions are the best way to learn because it tells you what you need to work on. Where in Australia do you train? My coach is good friends with Anthony Perosh & Elvis Sinosic of Sinosic-Perosh gym, and I’ve already met and rolled with Anthony Perosh (he made me feel like a ragdoll!) when he visited our gym. We also had Anthony Lange just last month.

Comment by jonna

Just stumbled upon your blog – so inspiring. Thanks for sharing. BJJ is a way of life for me and my family as well.

Comment by Jen

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